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My natural hair journey started earlier this year. I've thought about it before, but I would still go to the hairdresser to relax my hair. I've been relaxing my hair since I was 14 years old. I've always disliked my hair. It was difficult hair, I could never find the right products and I was always dependent on other people to do my hair. Then I heard about relaxing. This is a chemical process, to straighten your hair. I thought I would have perfect hair, but still didn't have what I wanted. Just a couple of years ago I got to know my hair a bit better and it started to grow longer. And looked a lot healthier.
After I gave birth to my son, a lot changed. I saw that my hair changed, even relaxed. In May of this year I had to cut a couple of inches of my hair after relaxing it.
I thought of not relaxing my hair, but thinking of all the hair drama I used to have, I let the relaxer do it's job. And had to cut 5-10 cm of my hair. I was this close to crying. At this point I decided to really take good care of myself and my hair. I would moisturize and seal my hair every day, drink enough water, take extra vitamins, etc, etc. It must be possible right, healthy and long relaxed hair?
I already had a new appointment at the hairdresser to relax my hair, but due to some circumstances, I couldn't go. And I decided to go on a last minute vacay to Spain with my little one. One day at the beach, I was rinsing my hair after I conditioned it, and I felt something funny. A very defined curl underneath my straight, relaxed hair. And even better; that hair felt so strong. I asked my mom if she could see the curls and she said yes. And there on that beach, for the first time in years, I said: 'I'm thinking about going natural'. And since then I haven't relaxed my hair.
I haven't relaxed my hair since July. I've been very close to relaxing my hair, because I couldn't stand working with two different hair textures. I have my own natural hair versus the relaxed hair. In September I did boxbraids si my hair could relax a bit, and I didn't have to deal with the two different textures. My hair could grow in peace, and the big chop could wait. Because I'm still as vain as ever, and my hair has to be a certain length before I'll chop the relaxed ends of. The girl next to me on the picture below is my co- worker Lana, who played a big part in me not relaxing my hair!
Dominique of Branded by Beauty gave me the last nudge in the right direction. After I spoke to her on the phone and she told me she used to relax her hair years ago, I was certain that I wouldn't relax my hair anytime soon. I really LOVE her hair. And she told me that there are better products for black her on the market now and that I could do great things with my hair. I'm super excited to start this journey. It might sound weird, but I haven't seen my 'own' hair in 14 years. I've been relaxing for 14 years, and haven't seen my fro in a while ;) When I look at my sons hair, I keep thinking ' his curls are so fabulous! I want that too!' And I don't want my child to grow up with the idea that because his hair is different than the standards provided by society, it's less beautiful.
My goal for now is healthy hair. I'm not saying I'll never relax, weave, wear wigs or whatever, but I do want to get to know my hair, learn more about taking care of black hair. And ofcourse learn more about styling it, so I can do it myself and share my knowledge with different women. I will share my natural hair journey here on I AM Mode in a monthly post. So...Stay tuned!
It's fall. I hear a lot of to cheery people saying 'Oh great it's fall again!', but to be honest this is not my season. I'm more of a summer kind of gyal. Rain, wind, cold.. yuk. But sometimes, there are these beautiful days, when the sun is shining and you can go out wearing your fabulous fall outfit. The reason for this outfit? I went to the petting zoo with my little one. Always a good excuse to wear my Hunter boots. And this camel coat by Ready to Fish by Ilya is simply the best with any outfit.
But all the fashion in the world can't compete against the great Sunday afternoon I had with my son! It's a good idea to look fabulous at the playground, because all the hot daddies are there as well ;) What do you think of this OOTD?
The Look Coat: Ready to Fish by Ilya Sweater: SIS Pants: Zara Boots: Hunter
Sunday the 31th of July was B-Day: I went to the Formation World Tour Concert of Beyoncé! I went together with my brother Jamiel, with who'm I found Golden Circle Tickets. Since the concert in Amsterdam was sold out in a second (thank you Visa) we went to Brussels. Not too shabby huh?
As long as I can remember I'm a huge fan of Beyoncé. I find that she exudes so much positive energy but most of all, she's such a powerwoman. With an amazing drive and voice. And we were so happy to be a part of this!
Our Queen B wore different designers on stage. She openen with formation in an DSquared ensemble and the well known hat from the clip (If you don't know what I'm talking about, please leave this blog, watch the video clip of Formation). But also Gucci, Givenchy, Balmain and Atsuko Kudo came by during the show. She looks stunning in each and every one of the looks. In the video below youu can see the last part of the show where Beyoncé and her dancers went all out in the water. Sidenote; I had a crazy fan moment and almost helped my brothers Iphone to it's end. Which by the way didn't happen, so it's all good :)https://youtu.be/r_Q3MVfCUBI
With all these outfits Beyoncé shows that she still is sexy. The show itself was amazing.Ofcourse the Formation World Tour was mostly about 'Lemoande' but she also took us back to the Destiny's Child Era and her previous albums. Also a beautiful gesture; she honoured Prince by playing purple rain and the leaving the screen purple during the song.
But...what a show! It was worth the long wait. We've enjoyed the show from beginning till the end. See you soon Queen B!
With this beautiful weather and the holidays starting, it's a great tim efor mini beauty products. Estee Lader has launched a perfect service: The Mini Bar. I find it super handy to bring mini's with me on vacation. Or with extreme weather( like this tasty hot weauther), when my skin needs something extra. Especially the skin around my eyes.
In the Estée Lauders Mini Bar you can find some of their new skincare products but also the classics. And for a nice price as well. My favorite: The ANR Eye + Mini Concealer. And the mascara. I don't need much more in the Summer. Side note; these mini's are a limited edition, so as long as the stocks lasts they're available. And the mini beauty products are delivered at your door for free!
Fashionweek: altijd een hoogtepunt in de fashion wereld. De internationale edities that is. En wat een spectaculaire locatie heeft FENDI voor haar show gebruikt; Het Trevi fontein in Rome! De Fall/Winter 16 Legends and Fairy tales show vond plaats na Paris Couture Fashion Week. De gasten werden in een privé jet overgevlogen vanuit Parijs naar Rome om het 90- jarige bestaan van het Italiaanse Modehuis te vieren.
Natuurlijk kan het ook bijna niet anders met creatief directeur Karl Lagerfeld en Sylvia Venturini aan het hoofd van het modehuis. Maar wat een idee. FENDI heeft de renovatie van het wereldberoemde fontein gesponsord, dus hebben ze natuurlijk alle recht om daar hun prachtcollectie te laten zien.
Creativiteit viert hoogtij in de modewereld. Ik ben dol op alle bloemen die de schoenen van de modellen sieren. Echt, dit is een iconische show geweest! Zie hieronder de looks van de collectie. Het thema: bloemen en een modern sprookje! Klik op de galerij om de foto's uit te vergoten. Picture Credit: Fendi